The esteemed and late religious leader Thomas S. Monson once said: “Men, take care not to make women weep, for God counts their tears.”
He’s right. God loves His daughters and counts their tears. Men should be more careful of how they treat the women in their lives. I love President Monson for his goodness and concern for people. However, is it not equally true that God loves His sons? Does He not also count our tears?
Our Eternal Father does count His sons’ tears. In no age have men had more reason to mourn and cry because of the actions and attitudes of women than in this present epoch. Yet, no one wants to talk about men in a sympathetic or positive light.
Officialdom only condemns men, treats masculinity like a contagion, portrays fathers as oppressors and husbands as buffoons, and smears patriarchal societies as the root of civilization’s ills. This anti-male agenda began in earnest with Adam Weishaupt’s criminal clique and was spread to the world by Marxists.
The goal of communists is the “abolition of the family.” In order to achieve that end, the defenders of the home – men – must be marginalized, condemned, and neutered. But how was this to be accomplished? By means of the women. Weishaupt plotted:
“There is no way of influencing men so powerfully as by means of the women. These should therefore be our chief study; we should insinuate ourselves into their good opinion, give them hints of emancipation from the tyranny of public opinion, and of standing up for themselves; it will be an immense relief to their enslaved minds to be freed from any one bond of restraint, and it will fire them the more, and cause them to work for us with zeal, without knowing that they do so; for they will only be indulging their own desire of personal admiration” (Adam Weishaupt, in John Robison, Proofs of a Conspiracy, 111).
Bolshevik feminist and one of Lenin’s illicit lovers, Inessa Armand, boasted:
“If women’s liberation is unthinkable without communism, then communism is unthinkable without women’s liberation.”
Always remember that feminism is communism. The Marxian Hegelian Dialectic of bringing two things into conflict to create a synthesis – problem, reaction, solution – was simply applied to the home front. This is feminism.
As a sense of victimhood was instilled in women and the Marxian notion of “liberation” was dangled in front of them like a carrot on a stick, women began to rebel against traditional norms and Christian values. They began seeking selfish pleasure, not selfless service. They sought faux “independence” by severing themselves from the blessings and responsibilities of motherhood and homemaking.
The world’s women were thus mobilized against men, families, and society. They became the shock troops of the communist world revolution. They were and are the revolutionaries on the frontlines doing the destructive work that a hundred armies couldn’t dream of doing. Through “Women’s Liberation” came world subjugation. Feminism is the disease which has poisoned society.
In embracing Marxism, whether they recognized it as such or not, women victimized themselves. They have cut themselves off from the respect of good men and decent society. They have forfeited honor in eternity – the honor that properly belongs to mothers who faithfully raised a righteous posterity. They have relinquished happiness and authentic joy – none of which is to be found outside of marriage and the home. Women, once cherished, are now viewed dismissively and derisively as the hedonistic floosies so many of them have become. They didn’t “liberate” themselves from oppression – they liberated themselves from respect, happiness, fulfillment, family, and honor.
Women have not only wronged themselves, however. Much of their shrill ire and petulant immaturity has been directed at, or has directly harmed, men. One simple statistic speaks volumes. I have seen the number slightly higher and slightly lower, but as a round figure, 80% of divorces are initiated by women. Sources here, here, here, and here. Be careful, the explanations given in these sources are highly biased and epitomize the anti-male perspective we’re talking about; blaming “insensitive” men for all of women’s woes, for instance.
The cruel fact is that the overwhelming majority of these tragic divorces are of the “no-fault” variety. In other words, the women in these situations are not alleging abuse or infidelity or tyrannical patriarchal behavior; they’re simply too immature, disloyal, or selfish to keep the marriage going. Don’t you dare blame men for these “no-fault” marriage failures! The studies cited above show that the more “highly-educated” a woman is, the more likely she is to divorce. Tell me that isn’t a result of the mind-numbing Marxist indoctrination they receive at university!
“It takes two to tango” does not always apply. Sometimes, it only takes one – and in most cases, that one is the woman. Do the husbands in these examples have faults and share partial blame. In many cases they certainly do. We all have faults, and some men are disloyal, immature, or brutish (that said, look at domestic abuse statistics against men and female infidelity numbers sometime. You may be surprised). Nevertheless, women are the ones who initiate divorces in most cases. They are the ones who decide to end most marriages. It’s not men who throw in the towel or run away, it’s women.
Over the years, I’ve talked with and known countless divorced men. In nearly every case, it was the ex-wife who had ended it. Most of these men were good, faithful, religious, and upright. Yet, their wives were too immature or wanted things their own way. They refused to become part of a team, instead demanding all control or nothing. Often, in cases where infidelity played a role, it was the woman who was the guilty party. In the case of one co-worker, his wife had literally run off at a business conference with a guy she just met and claimed was her “soulmate.”
All of that is anecdotal, but it dovetails with the statistics cited earlier showed; namely, that 80% of divorces are initiated by women. In my own life, I was the victim of divorce. My ex-wife left me and ran off to California to, quote, “find myself.” She said she couldn’t handle the responsibilities of adulthood anymore, let alone marriage or motherhood. She began suffering from depression and anxiety attacks and felt she needed to escape. Just after our third anniversary, she left (and immediately started slaving away at a full-time job to pay for an over-priced and tiny apartment where she could spend her free hours with her cat). I tried to reconcile for over a year before she finally asked for a divorce, which I grudgingly granted.
Trust me, men’s hearts can break. Men fall on their knees in anguish and sob. They mourn and they cry. And God counts our tears.
God, who is an exalted Man and our Father, values manhood. He loves His sons. He cherishes them every bit as much as His daughters. When women lash out against, belittle, or hurt God’s sons, He is deeply offended.
When men are cheated by teachers at school because of their gender, God is offended. When men are called “pigs” by bitter women and Hollywood, God is offended. When men are emasculated by the media, politicians, schools, and even parents, God is offended.
In a thousand ways, men and masculinity are under relentless attack. Boys aren’t allowed to run, jump, play, complete, or win – there can be no winners in our milk toast society (but men must be losers). Men are told they’re stupid, incompetent, insensitive, savage, and pointless. As a bitter, divorced female co-worker more than once told me: “Men are only good for one thing” (i.e. sex). But even in romance, gentlemen and “nice guys” are mocked and discarded. Yet, “bad boys” and ruffians are also painted as typical men – pigs or dogs.
The very nature of manhood has been labeled anathema and borderline dangerous. Aggressive and dominant men are treated as savages with no sensitivity. Many feminists have said that all men are rapists. We see so many tragic examples of these cultural Marxists attempting to transition boys into girls because they believe masculinity is inherently flawed and dangerous. Society is one giant anti-men melee led by angry duped women and conniving men who orchestrated all this chaos to increase their control over mankind.
Much of this hatred – call it what it is, misandry – stems from confusion. Feminists are ignorant of human nature. Like all communists, they deny human nature and engage in social engineering. Because they don’t even comprehend themselves, feminist women misjudge and prejudge men. They seek to fix what’s not broken and to mold men like clay into whatever their dictatorial hearts desire – which is a whipping boy to blame for all their problems. If women understood themselves better, and how they were designed to complement men, feminism would be shattered forever.
A real man in every good or noble sense of the word, Ezra Taft Benson, gave what I consider the greatest ever sermon on a woman’s place in God’s Plan. All women – and especially those who are guilty of disrespecting or demeaning their husbands or who have otherwise selfishly acted in ways that undermine home, family, and public morality – need to pay attention. Benson taught:
“Woman was given to man as an helpmeet. That complementary association is ideally portrayed in the eternal marriage of our first parents—Adam and Eve. They labored together; they had children together; they prayed together; and they taught their children the gospel together. This is the pattern God would have all righteous men and women imitate.
“Before the world was created, in heavenly councils the pattern and role of women were prescribed. You were elected by God to be wives and mothers in Zion. Exaltation in the celestial kingdom is predicated on faithfulness to that calling.
“Since the beginning, a woman’s first and most important role has been ushering into mortality spirit sons and daughters of our Father in Heaven.
“Since the beginning, her role has been to teach her children eternal gospel principles. She is to provide for her children a haven of security and love—regardless of how modest her circumstances might be.
“In the beginning, Adam was instructed to earn the bread by the sweat of his brow—not Eve. Contrary to conventional wisdom, a mother’s place is in the home!
“I recognize there are voices in our midst which would attempt to convince you that these truths are not applicable to our present-day conditions. If you listen and heed, you will be lured away from your principal obligations.
“Beguiling voices in the world cry out for “alternative life-styles” for women. They maintain that some women are better suited for careers than for marriage and motherhood.
“These individuals spread their discontent by the propaganda that there are more exciting and self-fulfilling roles for women than homemaking” (President Ezra Taft Benson, “The Honored Place of Woman,” General Conference, October, 1981).
Mark it, ladies – your exaltation in your Heavenly Father’s Kingdom is dependent upon how well you fulfill your role as wives, mothers, and homemakers (see also Titus 2:4-5). Each of these depends on a man and can’t be done independently. You cannot be a wife without a man, modern LGBT laws aside. You cannot really be a mother without a man, regardless of what modern legislators say. And it’s rather hard to be a homemaker without a man to sustain you and give you the amazing gift of being in the home. Yet, this is what the Lord requires.
How does the Lord’s program fit in with feminism which takes women out of the home, away from motherhood, and places wedges between them and men? Obviously, the two plans are incompatible. One cannot be a feminist and follow God’s Plan. Marxism and Christianity are polar opposites. Women, take stock of yourself and see whose plan you prefer and which promises more benefits – Karl Marx’s or Jesus Christ’s.
Feminism is a deadly poison which is hard to extract once imbibed. This is because selfishness and pride are the root of feminism, and both are exceedingly hard to self-diagnose or treat. When the lens through when you look is distorted, everything you see is a distortion. Until you take off the feminist glasses and look at men, women, and relationships with fresh eyes, you will always misdiagnose the situation and do more harm than good.
Women, most of you are living wrong. Most men are, too. Men have actually started imitating “women’s liberation” with their own perverse version called Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW). MGTOW is a reaction to, and symptom of, feminism. Men are easy to please. As Disney said: “What do we want? A girl worth fighting for.” That’s all we really want. But when women no longer “need” or want us, and when they collectively destroy our marriages, undermine our homes, push us away, portray us as enemies, and provide poor examples for our children to follow, we recoil. The result is the MGTOW aberration and men disinterested in women beyond sexual trysts.
Few things are more repugnant than an “independent woman who don’t need no man” and who treats men like dogs. Truthfully, society values canines far more than it respects men – and women are the most disrespectful element. Men are the enemy of the feminist mind and everything from air conditioning to bascule bridge to smiling is mistaken as aggressive misogyny or rape. The real shift must take place not in men’s natures, but in women’s minds and manners.
Here’s the magic formula – let women be women and men be men. Don’t deny human nature and don’t tamper with God’s Plan. Men and women were given different characteristics that are hardwired into their souls. They can tweak them, but they can’t erase them. And when they tweak them, there are always negative side effects. Angry, unfulfilled, “don’t-need-no-man,” cat-woman, corporate, lonely feminism is the ultimate side effect of women denying who they are.
Womanly traits include charm, virtue, femininity, gentleness, submissiveness, selflessness, compassion, and beyond. Let’s narrow it down to three. Here’s a truth: By their virtue, femininity, and submissiveness, women can rectify this gravely hostile situation between the sexes almost overnight. Were they to embrace traditional values – Christian values – they would embrace God’s Plan. And when we follow Him, everything falls into place. But since these enlightened qualities have been indoctrinated out of modern women and Marxian feminist ideology with all its unruly selfishness and pettiness has replaced them, that’s not likely.
The reverse of what I just said is also true. Women can change men and repair homes by embracing godly womanhood, but men can also often influence women for the better by becoming better men – men of morality, honor, responsibility, conviction, and passion. Not tyrants, but assertive leaders exuding light, truth, wisdom, stability, and strength. If a flicker of femininity still lives in a women, they will usually respond to a high-quality man who deserves respect and whose masculine example is beyond reproach.
Men, we are under attack, not least of all from many of the women in our lives. They are misguided. They have hurt us. They make it terribly difficult to be the men we can and should be. They often steal our motivation by depriving us of a girl worth fighting for. But under circumstances can we give up and “go our own way.” That is cowardice and is the opposite of masculinity.
By abandoning fatherhood – the essence of true manhood – and marriage, we forfeit our own exaltation in Heaven. There is no true fulfillment for men outside of holy matrimony and the home. Whatever else you may accomplish in life, you are a failure if you fail to fulfill your sacred responsibilities in marriage and in the home.
God counts His sons’ tears. He knows his sons. He feels their suffering. He offers them peace, comfort, strength, and ultimate victory – regardless of what women choose – through His Son Jesus Christ. Stay the course of true manhood – family life and fatherhood, morality and leadership, honor and uprightness. Don’t let the immaturity or selfishness of women destroy you or poison your mind against marriage and family, both of which are ordained and commanded by God. And, to you women I say, don’t be the reason why men shed tears, for God sees and counts each of them.
January 2, 2023